If you have ever been in love you will know that the best part about being in a sexual relationship is indeed the build-up and anticipation leading up to the event. New lovers are very conversant with this process.
It’s all about timing and the imagination. It all happens in the mind actually. If you are fortunate enough to have had a very long period of anticipation, the tension rises accordingly, in anticipating the final culmination of your desires.
Then, when the moment comes, the passion is deep and the explosive activity delicious. The fireworks at the end bring with them a sense of wellbeing and fulfilment. It can also leave you savouring that event, over and over in your mind for some time afterwards and then leading you on towards the very next episode.
The higher your libido (and your physical capabilities), the more times you can come back for an encore. But each encore is less intense than the previous one, and certainly none of them come up to the expectation and experience of that first intimate encounter.
Nevertheless, there is a level of comfort and still, enough desire to supply you with the most satisfying relationship and ongoing experiences with that partner.
One of the saddest traps you must try to avoid at all costs, is taking each other for granted, and in some long-term relationships it becomes a case of “performance on demand”. This is the kiss of death for any lively sexual activity. Not many can perform “on demand”, and in fact, most will not be able to perform at all, or very poorly at best.
Writing is no different. The best writers have us mesmerised in a frenzy of pleasure in reading and imagining their work for the first time. We make a sweet discovery when we first encounter that writing. Then, in desiring the publication and arrival of their explosive newest novel, we have a sweet sense of anticipation that builds into a crescendo. Look at the Harry Potter releases and the crowds lining up to buy each book, as a point in case!
But in most cases, the subsequent book releases are still greatly loved, and deeply enjoyed, but never equal to that “first time” experience!
And of course, when a writer starts to represent a pay check for a publisher, then there is the question of writing “on demand”. This is where the best of them can still falter. This is why some of the greatest writers have a number of “lesser” books, which don’t fulfil the expectations of their reading audience.
Love and sex is in the mind and soul of the participants. Writing also comes from the mind and the hearts of the writers who indulge us.
When sex is very, very good, then it’s an exquisite experience. When writing is fresh and exciting, it’s the most exhilarating experience for us, the readers.
I would love to know if it was good for you?
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